What is so difficult about sleeves

Brad and I have ventured in the wild and wonderful world of formal wear. Which for him is fairly simple. Black 4 button tuxedo (tres chic) with a white vest and necktie (tres handsome and classy). I however am having a devil of a time. You would think that with all of the wedding dress designers out there I would find something that really really like. That however is not turning out to be the case. Here are the problems I am running into.

Problems:

1. I don't want a train and evidently that is blasphemous in the wedding dress world.
2. I want actual elbow length sleeves this too seems to be too difficult. (If one more sales lady says we can do any of these dresses with an elbow length sleeve, I might scream. Don't they understand that I would like to see how the dress looks with the longer sleeve before I buy it)
3. I have a larger bust and all dress designers assume that if you are that size on top you must be big everywhere else. So the dresses are either so tight in the chest i can't breathe or they are big as tents but now I can breathe.
4. What is with the cap sleeve, don't they understand that is the fattest part of most girls arms and all the cap sleeve does is draw attention to it.

Okay, I am done ranting now, just got a little frustrated there for a minute. I have found an absolutely beautiful pattern that my mother will be making my dress from. And i also managed to find out that you can order really nice high quality bridal fabrics from JoAnns they don't carry them in the store but they can be ordered.

On the plus side, we have chosen a date so put Thursday, May 29, 2008 on your calendars because we will be getting hitched. And we are narrowing in on a location for the reception so that is helpful as well. If anyone has any suggestions, hints, or tips I would love to hear about them.